Matthew 2:18-24 18And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.
19And out of the ground the LORD God formed every beast of the field, and every fowl of the air; and brought them unto Adam to see what he would call them: and whatsoever Adam called every living creature, that was the name thereof.
20And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him.
21And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof;
22And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.
23And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.
24Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
Marriage is a commitment. It is a lifelong commitment to each other and to God. All too often a Christian marriage can also hit a rough spot. Sometimes those rough spots are so intense and frustrating the couple may ask if their marriage is worth it and may even consider dissolving the union. However desperate the situation may seem, all is not lost. There are many ways to save your marriage. These are just a few.
First and most importantly, open the lines of communication. Sit down with your spouse and in a non-argumentative tone talk things out. Talk about what is bothering you, what is bothering them and how the both of you may be able to make changes for the sake of each other. Honor each other’s feelings and thoughts and never attack or belittle each other’s opinions. If you communicate with each other honestly and openly you will be on the right track to saving your marriage.
Christian marriage has a foundation that is based on the love and belief in the Lord. Turn together to the Lord during this trying time. Whether that means holding hands and praying quietly and silently, praying together out loud, reading your Bible together, whatever it may take to turn towards Him. He is waiting to hold you in His arms and guide you back to each other. Always have faith that the Lord is who brought you together, so He is the one entity that has the power to bring you back together. All you need to have is an open and faith filled heart.
Be open to seek Christian counseling as well. Most Christian churches are more than equipped to provide counseling for those members who need it. Do not feel embarrassed or ashamed as that counseling was put there to help. Call your church with your spouse and make an appointment to speak to someone for some extra help in getting your marriage put back on the right track. It is important that you seek out Christian counseling only as you will want the person who is counseling you to share your beliefs and values, as it will make the process that much easier.
Though you believe your situation may be hopeless, remember that a Christian marriage can be saved. With some hard work and open heart and faith in the Lord you can return to a place in your marriage that you truly thought you would never get back.
